Invalidation keeps the child from accurately labeling her own feelings and she learns that her feelings and responses are wrong and somehow bad. She will not learn how to regulate her emotions because she cannot even identify them accurately and her behavior may then oscillate between opposite poles of emotional inhibition in order to gain acceptance and extreme displays of emotion in order to have her feelings acknowledged. This failure to learn to regulate emotions, combined with a sensitive nervous system, leaves the child with intense emotions she cannot control, which then destabilizes her relationships, her sense of self, and her capacity to go to school or work. And, according to Linehan, it also causes these individuals to try to reduce their great emotional pain with impulsive behaviors, such as drinking or drugging, or self-mutilation, or ultimately suicidal threats or actions. Linehan regards these behaviors, which leave mental health professionals so reluctant to treat borderlines, as the client’s attempt to get rid of emotional misery quickly.